How Do I Choose The Right Dildo And Learn To Use It?

Simple: Start small.

And I highly recommend quality silicone for your first material, for all the reasons I mentioned in Is it Safe to Bring Toys to the Back Door?

Smooth and barely curved will be ideal. You could choose one that resembles a dick or go smoother. Too much texture or very pronounced ridges or a big head could be more challenging than you need to start with.

Of course, if you are playing with another, it may not be their first time, so be guided by them when their butthole is the one in question. They likely have a good feel for what size they can take, or that really gives them pleasure.

How do I learn to use a dildo for butt stuff?

Experiment!

Before you leave these portals
To meet less fortunate mortals
There’s just one final message
I would give to you
You all have learned reliance
On the sacred teachings of science
So I hope, through life you never will decline
In spite of philistine
Defiance
To do what all good scientists do

Experiment
Make it your motto day and night
Experiment
And it will lead you to the light
The apple on the top of the tree
Is never too high to achieve
So take an example from Eve
Experiment
Be curious
Though interfering friends may frown,
Get furious
At each attempt to hold you down
If this advice you’ll only employ
The future can offer you infinite joy
And merriment
Experiment
And you’ll see

Seriously. Try it out.

If it’s on yourself, try it at different angles, with different lubes, at different speeds, etc.

If it’s on someone else, be guided by them as you try it at different angles, with different lubes, at different speeds, etc.

Don’t be afraid.

Also, don’t stop communicating with your partner.

Sure, it can seem pretty unsexy to say, “Slow down for a moment,” or “Could you push forward just a bit, to see if I can take you deeper,” or even, “How does it feel when I do this?”

Butt, you know what? (Had to do it, sorry, sorry!)

Once you get this right, you will have plenty of time to do raunchy, sexy, rough butt fuckery in the future. It’s worth the extra time right now.

And if you’re using a dildo in a harness…

And it’s not anything like the parts you were issued at birth, it’s not just in and out. It’s a thrust with the hips.

Just take a look at some good porn (not the consent or the butt stuff without obvious lube — see Well, They Do It In Porn, Don’t They?, or the ‘doing it on the expensive furniture without a protector throw), and watch how their hips drive the fucking, rather than just sliding in and out.

And if you are doing it right for very long, you’ll get uncomfortable and sore, and you’ll probably feel it the next day.

That’s OK.

It takes time to learn everything. And maybe your partner is willing to massage your glutes as thanks for such an amazing experience!

*grins*

Let’s Discuss!

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