In fact, not being perfect is actually a bonus.
Dating is not just about looking good. It’s about looking good to someone, and looking interesting as well. Not just interesting as in, “I’d like a chat,” but interesting as in, “I really dig that big nose.”
According to the OkCupid blog (which is apparently no defunct), you should take whatever you think some people don’t like—and play it up.
As you’ve probably already noticed, women with tattoos and piercings seem to have an intuitive grasp of this principle. They show off what makes them different, and who cares if some people don’t like it? And they get lots of attention.
This is not just true for men gazing at women, though.
Across the genders, people tend to look more often and engage more deeply with others who are good-looking, but different in some way. A way that stands out.
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You’ve heard it before, looks are not important. That’s a lie. They are. BUT, they are not as important as many make them out to be. It is no excuse to say you can’t get partner because of your looks.
One of the most popular dominants I know is old, overweight, a bit of an asshole, and looks like a bridge troll, and he has women hanging around with him (and his wife) constantly.
I personally have a thing for “ugly-hots,” guys who are not traditionally good-looking, but who portray an interesting sense of self. Actors who represent this are: Tim Roth, Vincent D’Onofrio, and Jeff Goldblum.
Presence and personality (even on-screen) go a long way.
And imperfection is not only attractive, but humans tend to distrust those who seem too perfect, or who don’t show flaws.
Lao Tzu said:
“Perfection is the willingness to be imperfect.”
I agree.
What are your thoughts?
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This was originally written for Dating Kinky: Find the kinky love of your fantasies.
