What Are The Positives Of Kink?
Kink in and of itself, to me, is neither positive or negative. It’s a lifestyle, a hobby, entertainment, part of who I am…
It’s what I make of it that matters.
For many, what they make of it adds more love, acceptance, communication, self-confidence, and more into their lives.
And that’s a good thing.
But so does religion for some.
And just like religion, kink can also be a negative experience for many. It’s not all glitter rainbow unicorn farts that smell like jasmine. There are creepsters in every walk of life, and kink is no exception.
That said, there are many amazing things kink has to offer.
I’ve already detailed some of them in Is kink bad or wrong? Science has studied kink, and has determined that overall, it’s good for the…soul? Mind?
Something.
The community says:
I’ve found that kink has helped me become more open and honest with myself about myself and has improved my communication in spades.
— SunsetPhoenix
I would say that, well done, kink tends to lead toward more honest communication and self-appraisal. IMO, kink is a fast trip to the realm of Owning Your Own Shit, because there is such a tremendous chance that it will dredge up some uncomfortable realizations. Some of these might be from family, some of them might be from society, and some of these will definitely come from self-concept.
Recognizing, acknowledging, and dealing with these aspects of the self are a good way to become more open to what and who you are below the surface, as well as offering a chance to greatly increase the profoundness of deep relationships.
Of course, that’s not to say that becoming more kinky self-aware will force you into deep relationships. Far from it. IMO, it will bring you face to face with whatever types of relationships that you want to work for.
Honesty is the key, though.
— G. Michael VanTassle, 46 yrs cisgender heterosexual male, Daddy Dominant
Most importantly, though, exploring kink has helped me to push my boundaries in ways that I feel are particularly beneficial to my personal growth. I didn’t realize I had such deep trust issues until I voiced the fact that in 45 years I had NEVER been bound…not even so much as a pair of fuzzy handcuffs over the course of a 20-year relationship! I’m slowly working on that one. Oh, the epiphany in that moment: when I first recognized that the fact I’m even willing to consider pushing that comfort zone with my current partner speaks volumes about him and about the state of my former relationships.
— MsDomina00, 45F, Exploring
It provides an environment for individuals to explore their sexuality beyond the sexual conformity of the vanilla world.
It also helps you find people who may also be interested in those same sexual desires.
It can make you feel a little more sane.
It can be empowering and fulfilling.
It can change the way you see the world about many things to help explore different sides of intimacy that can be applied to a plethora of different types of relationships, and provide powerful and fulfilling connections within them.
It’s painful if you like that sort of thing.
It’s comfortable if you like that sort of thing.
It can help you find yourself if you like that sort of thing.
It can help you create yourself if you like that sort of thing.
It can show you, but you’ll have to do.
— Sarrows
Kink has helped me grow and is helping me with dealing with the trauma in my past.
— WarriorQueen23, 23, Kinkster
It’s a chance to go to a world where the decisions are not mine to make and be put in a position where I have no choice but to live in the moment that is being made for me, not one I am trying to make.
— HiThereCatsuit/J, 56 Male, Bottom
It helps you grow in all the ways your afraid to grow in. It teaches you coping and de stressing mechanisms. You know yourself more … the more you express and experience the better you know and learn about yourself.
Play is important and with each partner the play brings different elements into your life.
Long & short.. for me it feeds my soul.
— BellaMew, 46F Switch
