A Bit About Gender, Language, And Ground Rules
I’ll state right up front that this book is not for everyone.
However, if you’re interested in kink and getting your date on in kinkland, you’ll find most of what I have say relatively tame compared to what you’ll see out there if/when you do jump in.
I like to drop an F-bomb or two, and I speak frankly. I don’t intentionally go for shock value, because when people are shocked they don’t learn as well, and my main goal is to educate.
That said, there are a few things you need to know as you read on.
On Gender & Pronouns
A kinkster can be any gender.
In this book, I’m talking to you. I don’t know your gender, and I don’t assume it. You are just “you” to me.
However, I often write to my Pet in my stories, so “you” is sometimes written as a masculine perspective.
I always do my best to be cognizant of gender-sensitive topics. I will speak from my experience and from my research.
For example, when I say, “woman,” I mean cis- or trans-women, or any people who identify as a woman primarily or for at least 50 percent of their daily life.
When I say, “man,” I mean cis or trans-men, or any people who identify as a man primarily or for at least 50 percent of their daily life.
You may believe that there are only two genders. I believe in the range of gender, and I will attempt to address my book to speak to all, as inclusively as possible. Take from it what works for you, and leave the rest behind.
On Capitalization And Grammar
Oh, And Capitalization.
On BDSM chat boards and websites, many people make a big deal about capitalizing (or not capitalizing) titles.
For example, Master would be capped, while slave is not.
Dominant or Domme is capped while submissive is not.
Slaves and submissives go so far as to always use lower-case “i” when referring to themselves, or not using the “I” pronoun at all, but avoid it by referring to themselves in the third person.
Instead of “I would like to point out,” this might be stated as, “he would like to point out,” or “this boy would like to point out,” neither of which will be in use in this book, or any other I write, except as examples.
I think this practice in anyplace outside those established areas is odd at best and confusing at worst. Since I’m attempting to communicate with you and impart information, I simply won’t be doing that. I mean no disrespect to you or your choices—I’m simply exercising my choice to communicate as clearly as possible with the wide range of people who might read this book.
I (mostly) write English correctly, and that means capitalizing “I” in sentences, capitalizing the first letter, and NOT capitalizing other words in that sentence, just because they are referring to a dominant. Master, dominant and domme are not proper names.
I will capitalize BDSM, D/s and M/s, because they are (in my view) established concepts that have formed with the capitalization as part of the written expression.
Like LOL! For me, it’s just not the same written as lol or Lol. If I’m laughing out loud. It’s in caps.
I’m quirky. I know this about myself. smiles
On Adult Topics
This book is for entertainment purposes only.
It’s written for adults who understand the concept of consent and recognize they are responsible for their own actions, behaviors and the consequences thereof.
Any activity involving physical restraint poses some risk of injury. This is also true of any physical punishment. Many forms of kink also carry emotional/mental risks.
The author and publisher of this book accept no liability for the consequences of your actions.
If you are unsure about any of the practices described in this book (or about anything else, for that matter) seek professional advice from a qualified individual.
And if in doubt, just don’t do it.
This book also contains straight talk, discusses explicit non-mainstream adult themes involving sex without shame, and swear words. If these things offend you, don’t read them and get a refund.